September122014

New Post has been published on crossroads

New Post has been published on http://mage-girl.net/crossroads/i-was-a-person-until-i-wasnt/

I was a person until I wasn’t…

I needed a day to think before I wrote this post & I also wanted to make sure I could write it. I’m feeling pretty lucid right now. The suicidal thoughts are actually muted so I am going to take a couple of my spare spoons and go for it. :)

Yesterday, I stopped at a swanky grocery store in the Uptown area of Minneapolis. This area has been gentrified beyond belief. It’s very much a upper middle class to rich person’s place, now. And this grocery store is one of those “boutique” stores. It doesn’t look like the value supermarkets inside at all. In fact, if a person walked in and wasn’t comfortable with the subtle and not so subtle aura of luxury, they’d feel intimidated.

Me, I just wanted lunch. So I picked out some sushi (delicious!) and some raspberry yoghurt. I headed to the checkout line and that’s when things became not so much fun.

There was one person available and this person was fairly pleasant to me. We chatted about the weather and when it came time to pay, I got my EBT/SNAP (food stamps) card out of my wallet. ‘I’m paying with EBT today,’ I told the cashier. I continued chatting to this person about the weather as I swiped my card and paid for my food. I looked up to see if this person was going to respond when I noticed the following:  this person had completely turned away from me. Wasn’t even looking at me, anymore. Wasn’t talking to me. This person had ignored me completely, ever since I let them know I was using my EBT card. I said ‘goodbye’ and I didn’t receive a response.

OK, then. I walked away with my food and thought about it. What was different? How did I become invisible all of a sudden? And it hit me. I was dressed like a well to do person. But then, I took out my EBT card and betrayed myself as “one of those people.”

Here’s the thing, lads. That sort of attitude sucks and it makes a person feel less than. Other. Invisible. I wasn’t feeling like I was less than a person. I was feeling angry. I was fucking PISSED OFF. Because I’d done NOTHING to warrant that behavior. I was polite. I was making small talk. Those who know me have seen me talk to most anyone. Unless that person is a complete ass canoe, I enjoy the conversation. A little bit of getting to know someone as they pass through my life.

As a person who’s been on assistance for a long time in one way or another, whether it was WIC or MAC when my boys were younger or EBT/SNAP as they got older, I’ve learned which grocery store clerks to go to and which to avoid. A lot of us who use these programs do.

First, I look for a person of colour, preferably younger, perhaps looks like a parent themselves. They’re the least likely to give off a vibe of ‘oh, so you’re one of those.’

If that’s not available, then I look for a middle aged white person. And hope for the best.

The very last choice is an older person because nine times out of ten, I’ve received The Look.

And god forbid if I buy luxury items. Or if I buy snacks and pop. It really is a damned if you do or damned if you don’t. If I buy nice things such as steak or crab legs, then it’s ‘how dare you buy expensive things on food stamps?’ If I buy snack food, then it’s ‘oh, so you’re going to spend your (OUR) money on junk food, huh?’

I’m sure the sushi was an item this cashier thought I shouldn’t have bought. Actually, I shouldn’t have been in the store in the first place. There’s grocery stores for people like me. SuperValu or Cub Foods or whatever the big chain store is in my town. Not this upper class grocery haven.

I’m never going back to this grocery store again. Kinda makes me sad because I really did like the sushi rolls. They were delicious. Oh. And I’m emailing their customer service to let them know how shitty I was treated and how maybe it would be a good thing for their cashiers to be a little more open minded towards people.

There’s an addendum, a post script to this story. Last night, I went to the Aldi’s grocery store near my sons’ school. I needed to pick up some groceries for supper. I chatted with the cashier and said, ‘I’m going to use my EBT card today.’ Same exact words as I used in the morning. And the cashier looked me right in the eye, smiled, and said, ‘Thank you for letting me know.’ I swiped my card, said good bye and the cashier smiled again and said, ‘Bye! Have a nice night.’

I think you know which grocery store is going to get my business from now on.

September52014

moo-lee:

Petition to put Hawkeye’s disability and use of a hearing aid in Marvel Cinematic Universe please and thank-you

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10PM
idyllspace:

colinfitzpatrick:

In important news today: Gillian Anderson has come out as bisexual and appeared in Out magazine with this photo.

MY DREAMS ARE REALIZED

The Truth is definitely out there…

idyllspace:

colinfitzpatrick:

In important news today: Gillian Anderson has come out as bisexual and appeared in Out magazine with this photo.

MY DREAMS ARE REALIZED

The Truth is definitely out there…

(via thechosenneville)

10PM
fireflysummers:

I have a running headcanon that if Rocket ever met Natasha, he’d have an itty bitty crush on her.  And he’d know that nothing romantic would ever happen, but that doesn’t stop him from competing with Clint for her attentions.
And she’s not confused about Rocket’s intentions, she’s responding to the gossip he’s telling her about Clint.  Not featured: a disgruntled Hawkeye wondering how he lost to a raccoon.

fireflysummers:

I have a running headcanon that if Rocket ever met Natasha, he’d have an itty bitty crush on her.  And he’d know that nothing romantic would ever happen, but that doesn’t stop him from competing with Clint for her attentions.

And she’s not confused about Rocket’s intentions, she’s responding to the gossip he’s telling her about Clint.  Not featured: a disgruntled Hawkeye wondering how he lost to a raccoon.

(via fuckyeahguardiansofthegalaxy)

10PM
8PM

sungl0ry:

hannibaladies meme : [1/5] ladies
↳ Margot Verger

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8PM
cecilyjeanne:

stunningpicture:

Moving out of the apartment

This is, without a doubt, the saddest photo I have ever seen in my ENTIRE LIFE.

NO, my Precious…

cecilyjeanne:

stunningpicture:

Moving out of the apartment

This is, without a doubt, the saddest photo I have ever seen in my ENTIRE LIFE.

NO, my Precious…

(via talkmagically)

8PM
theurbanblabbermouth2:

What Smut Should You Read Instead Of Fifty Shades Of Grey?    House of Holes, Vox and The Fermata by Nicholson Baker    Lady Chatterley’s Lover, DH Lawrence    Wifey, Judy Blume    Querelle by Genet    Tropic of Cancer, Henry Miller    Delta of Venus, Anais Nin    Justine, Marquis de SadeAnd let’s not forget about Anne Rice’s Sleeping Beauty series.
 New recommendation: The Boss by Abigail Barnette

theurbanblabbermouth2:

What Smut Should You Read Instead Of Fifty Shades Of Grey?

    House of Holes, Vox and The Fermata by Nicholson Baker
    Lady Chatterley’s Lover, DH Lawrence
    Wifey, Judy Blume
    Querelle by Genet
    Tropic of Cancer, Henry Miller
    Delta of Venus, Anais Nin
    Justine, Marquis de Sade

And let’s not forget about Anne Rice’s Sleeping Beauty series.

New recommendation: The Boss by Abigail Barnette

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8PM

5ummit:

Hawkeye vs. Deadpool #0

I really appreciated all the little nods to Clint’s deafness in this issue. I’m glad other writers are acknowledging it and it’s not just a temporary thing in Fraction’s run. I also enjoy the fact that Wade apparently knows sign language.

(via thechosenneville)

8PM

So I got my new binder

bedabug:

therealjazzbertie:

megannicoline:

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This is me in my usual bra, note the 34D/32DD boobs.

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And here is the binder, almost completely flat.

This thing is awesome.  It is remarkably comfortable, too.  Feels a bit like wearing a sports bra. I got it from Love Boat, this one(http://www.lesloveboat.com/shop/product_info.php?products_id=122&osCsid=57cc209b6d95c6c3efa2d87a2325b6c2)

WOAH.

Reblogging again for my trans* and genderfluid buddies and also all female cosplay friends.

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